I've read online earlier today thru 2 sources that the November 2019 patch hasn't been pushed out yet.
If anything, tou could try to put another carrier sim in and update via that way. I used a Fi sim 3 or 4 times. The latest was the August patch. The no security qr update was with my T mo.
Not sure if the other aim needs to be active or not, I've heard yes and/or no.
If it is a factory US Unlocked Galaxy S9 Model SM-G960U1 try this...